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BabyPillars community baby sleep questions and answers

Baby sleeping

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BabyPillars Community – questions and answers

From the BabyPillars Community – what other parents are saying about their baby sleep problems and how they cope.

Megan .T. Question: Any tips on how to get a newborn to go to sleep at night?!

Silma .G. Asked: Has anyone tried the sleep drops for babies? Did they help at all? Nothing seems to settle him down and im burning out. Hubby gets frustrated with the crying all night.

Rachelle .G. Question: Opinions and thought on the "cry it out" method for babies?

Sara .G. Question: Day sleeps... What age did you go from two sleeps to one sleep? What time do you put them down and how long do they sleep for? DD is 13 months and is resisting her second sleep at daycare. She's been doing this for maybe a week. Before that she was fine. Is it time to change her sleep times? On a side note... She's almost walking, taking more steps each day. I wonder if this developmental milestone is impacting on her day sleeps and she'll come right once fully walking. Thanks ?

Ashley .N. Question: How did you survive the 4 month sleep regression? LO is 3 months old and is now waking up every 1-2 hours at night again. I want to bash my head into a wall- this is miserable!

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The 4 Pillars Of Falling Asleep Faster

Baby sleeping

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The 4 pillars of falling asleep faster and for better sleep

So what should you actually do to make your baby fall asleep faster?

If your baby sleeps with you in bed, or if your baby falls asleep on your hands or if your baby needs any “outside” help to fall asleep start with the first step.

The first pillar of falling asleep

In the first pillar after you have performed your own bedtime ritual, put a chair next to your child's bed and sit down. Massage your baby and touch him or her from time to time until they fall asleep. Make sure your baby falls asleep with your touch.

It is very important that the physical contact between you and your baby will be under your control and not under your baby control.

If your baby doesn’t fall asleep, cries, stand up etc., or if your constant contact does not help, lift him/her up, calm them on your hands and return them immediately to their bed when they calm down.

The second pillar of falling asleep

In the second pillar you should help your baby fall asleep without any physical contact. Sit beside your baby without touching. If he or she cries and needs you, calm them down first in bed and if it doesn’t work, then on your hands.

When you see that they are calm and close to sleeping remove your hand.

The third pillar of falling asleep

In the third pillar sit on a chair farther away from your baby but within sight, they should see you there when they are lifting their head. Of course here too, if your baby begins to cry approach, calm them down, lay them back in bed and sit down in the chair again.

The fourth pillar of falling asleep

In the fourth pillar you say "good night", give your baby a kiss and leave the room. If your baby cries, it is necessary to return, calm him down, lay him back down to bed and leave the room.

If your baby wakes up at the middle of the night, do the same actions depending on the pillar you are in.

These are the five steps and the four pillars that I personally use and thousands of families use for quitter sleep and get up full of energy and happiness in the morning and my family sleeps all night and create opportunities to enjoy moments of peace and quiet.

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The 5 Steps For A Better Quitter Night Sleep

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The 5 Steps For A Better And Quitter Night Sleep

The first step - Create permanent anchors

Each one of us was born and raised in a particular environment, where there was a certain order.

We knew there was breakfast, lunch, dinner, when to play and when to go to sleep. Our parents dictated our daily routine and built a certain routine for us.

Years passed, we grew up and matured, the world changed and together with it our day to day life and our routine. Each one from this stage dictates to what and when he does things. Now we let ourselves go to bed late and whenever we feel tired, get up when we need or not at all, eat whenever we feel like, and yet, our lack of routines are still routines.

But now we are parents, some of us build special routines for our newborn baby but some of us a lot of us go with the "routine" we have already set when there wasn’t a little bundle of joy in our home. Here is the problem! This routine doesn’t work for our baby and soon we will need to change it - To his/her routine.

How to organize a regular schedule for your baby?

Try to organize the day so that it has fixed anchors at regular times. For example: meals, playing times, going out for errands or just walking around the neighbourhood, all these “tasks” should be fixed and on regular times throughout the day.

The daily routine and road signs will give your baby a sense of security and will make it easier for him/her to follow the course of the day and help organize his/her day without they will even notice.

It is very important that during the day your baby sleeps in his/her bed so that they will learn that there is one fixed place and bed which they sleep in and have all the proper conditions for it.

The second step – The Sleeping Ceremony

The sleeping ceremony is of great importance, and it is designed to help your baby get a clear separation between day time and night time. We aim to lower our hectic life before going to bed and preparing our baby for a quality and pleasant sleep.

It is important that the order of things in the ceremony will be consistent and more or less at the same sequence and time. It is important to emphasize that the ceremony must repeat itself every day, and exactly the same.

During the sleeping ceremony you can put some calm music in the background, you can leave the light on, and it is important that the sleeping ceremony will have content and meaning. You can read a bedtime story, massage your baby for a few seconds, say good night to every large toy in the room etc.

Then when your done turn off the light or the music and put your baby down to sleep.

The third step - Identify signs of fatigue

It is very important to recognize the signs of your baby fatigue and respond to them from the moment you recognize them and no longer than 30 minutes.

Common signs are of fatigue are:

  1. Your baby rubbing their eyes
  2. Scratching their ear or head
  3. yawning
  4. Another sign that you can recognize if your baby is tired is his hyperactivity. Here I remember the myth most of us heard from our surroundings that you need to wait until he or she gets tired and then they will sleep for a whole night or at least A few good hours. When I tried to do this, the dream of a good night sleep just smashed into my face.

When you know that your baby is long overdue and past his/her sleeping hour and he or she does not look tired at all, this is a red light you should notice.

His body is over-tired and excreted adrenaline which causes your baby to enter the hyperactivity state and in such a situation it is very difficult to soothe and lay them down to sleep. And even when you've succeeded in putting them down, chances are they'll wake up at night and not once but multiple times. So, avoid getting into over-fatigue and always remember that early response will ease your child's process of falling asleep and will benefit his/her sleep quality.

The fourth step – Day and night sleep cycles

One thing that changed my understanding of my baby sleeping patterns was understanding what sleeping cycles are. A baby's sleep cycle takes about an hour and is divided into two parts.

In the first part your baby sees a dream, so you can see that when he moves a lot during sleep, blinking (REM) and it almost looks like he doesn’t sleep at all.

In the second part of the sleep cycle, your baby enters his/her deep sleep phase, where you will see and feel regular breathing, relaxed body and see that your baby sleeps just "like a baby". After an hour or so, the sleep cycle is renewed and again your baby enters the dream phase.

Day Sleeping
Sleeping during and the amount of sleep is heavily depending on your baby age. See table above. If your baby is sleeping an entire sleep cycle, that is, an hour and more, then he or she decides to wakes up, there is no reason to bring him back to sleep, the physical system is refreshes and this is the time he or she can get up and continue the day.

During the noon sleep time your baby should not sleep more than 3 hours in total, otherwise it may turn into almost “night sleep” and it can and would change the routine and night time sleep

Your baby should sleep no less than 55 minutes (preferably an hour) at noon, otherwise, it is likely that your baby will arrive at the sleeping ceremony overly tired grumpy and the night sleep will be effected.

Night Sleeping
Even during the night, the sleep cycle is the same sleep cycle, the only thing that should change is our attitude and the way we approach our baby.

When your baby wakes up in the middle of the night, your goal is to get him/her back to sleep. When your baby wakes up, it is important not to start playing with him or her and to not incorporate any other factors that will distract your baby from sleeping, otherwise he or she simply would not want to go back to sleep.

The fifth step - Good Morning – It’s a new day

So as not to cause confusion in your baby when the night ends and a new day begins, here, too, it is important to do a short sleep ceremony. You can open the blinds, say good morning to the toys in the room, change the PJ’s etc.

And always - start the day with a smile. It is very important that it morning and a new day has begun - Your baby should understand that too. Enter the room with a smile (even if you did not sleep at all that night), hug him or her say good Morning it’s a new and exciting day ahead.

But if you know that it is not yet time to start the day, then return your baby to sleep until morning.

It is important that you as the parent be decisive, very clear and confident in yourself and in your parenting. This is how your baby will learn he has someone he can trust and trust is related to every area of his or her life, not only to sleep, otherwise he or she will simply not understand what you will want from them at the next night.

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Baby Sleep Chart, How Long Should A Baby Really Sleep

Baby sleeping

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Baby Sleep chart – How long should a baby really sleep, throughout the day and night

First – the guidelines. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine in 2016 established new guidelines for the amount of sleep a baby and/or a child 0-5 year olds should sleep each day.

Please keep in mind that these numbers are a sense of the “norm” but what really is “normal” in baby sleep? and are all babies sleep the same? These numbers are gust suggestions and should be handle as such.

  • Infants 4–12 months: 12–16 hours total in 24 hours
  • Children 1–2 years: 11–14 hours total in 24 hours
  • Children 3–5 years: 10–13 hours total in 24 hours

What are the Sleep needs of a newborn?

Your baby sleep varies and changed depending on their age. While newborns babies sleep the majority of time, their sleep is in very short segments. As your baby grows, the total amount of sleep hours gradually decreases by age, but on the other hand the length of night sleep increases more and more each year.

In general, and not for every mom, newborns daytime sleep is between 8 to 9 hours. Nighttime sleep is about 8 hours, but unfortunately newborns may not sleep more than an hour to two hours at a stretch. So when does a baby sleep through the night? 

Here is the answer: Some babies will sleep through the night (6 to 8 hours stretch) without waking starting at around 3 months of age. About 60% of babies are able to sleep through the night on a regular basis by the age of 6 to 8 months.

The following are the usual nighttime and daytime sleep needs for newborns through age 2 years old:


Total sleep hours

Total hours of nighttime sleep

Total hours of daytime sleep


16 hours

8-9 hours

8 hours

1 month

15.5 hours

8-9 hours

7 hours

3 months

15 hours

9-10 hours

4-5 hours

6 months

14 hours

10 hours

4 hours

9 months

14 hours

11 hours

3 hours

1 Year

14 hours

11 hours

3 hours

1.5 Years

13.5 hours

11 hours

2.5 hours

2 Years

13 hours

11 hours

2 hours

Sleep Schedule

Here are the most common sleep schedules you can give your baby by his/her age, but please take in consideration your baby’s individual needs, and want's this is not for all babies out there.

Day Baby Sleep Schedule


No. of Naps

Nap Spacing

Day Sleep Notes

Approx Total Day Sleep

0 - 4 Months

On Demand
(usually 4-5)

45-120 mins awake time between naps. Nap irregularity in frequency and duration is common.

No schedule yet, keep baby rested. Avoid over tiredness and long stretches of wakefulness. Don’t be afraid to soothe your baby – s/he needs sleep! Single sleep cycle naps (3045 mins) are common in the second half of this phase.

Many babies will sleep 15-16 hours in 24 hours during first 2-3 months, then decreases to more like 14-15 hours +/- by 3-4 months.

4 - 6 Months

4 down to 3

4 months – single sleep cycle (30-45 mins naps) are still normal. By 5-6 months, babies are capable of lengthening naps. 2-2 ½ hours awake time between naps. On 3 nap pattern, third nap is shortest (30-45 mins).

Schedule is emerging. Prioritise your baby’s naps, paying attention to sleep location and environment now. Start your day at a regular time (30 min window), work towards three nap a day pattern with longer wake times between the naps by 6 months.

3 - 4.5 hours

6 - 9 Months

3 down to 2

3 nap schedule: 2-2 ½ hours between naps 2 nap pattern: Ladder schedule. Approx. 2-3-4 hours between each sleep session starting with morning wake.

Schedule is solidifying, keep bed/wake times regular. With three good naps, night sleep may condense (night shortens, typically later bedtime). When naps transition from 3 to 2, night sleep increases (earlier bedtime) and ladder style schedule of increasing stretches of wakefulness after each nap.

3 - 4 hours

9 - 18 Months

2 naps until approx.
12-18 months, then 1 to 2 naps

2 naps: typical schedule: Wake up – approx. 2.5 hours awake – nap – 3+ hours awake – nap – approx 4+ hours awake– bed.

1 nap: typical schedule: Wake up – 4-6 hours awake – nap – 4-5 hours awake – bed. May have catnaps before or after main nap during transition.

Night shortens again (later bedtimes) before the 2-1 nap transition. Night lengthens (earlier bedtime) after the 2-1 nap transition. Keep bed/wake times regular, but compensate with earlier bedtimes when needed for overtiredness.

3 + hours up to 12 months, then down to 2 -2.5 +/- hours with nap transition.

1.5 - 3 Years

1 nap

Wake up – 4-6 hours awake– nap – 5+ hours awake – bed

After transition, which may take several weeks, long period of regularity. Be careful of catnaps. Be careful of late naps plus early bedtimes which can lead to early am wake ups. A napping 3 year old will have a shorten night than a napping 18 month old.

2 + hours

3+ Years

1-no nap

Wake up – 6+ hours awake – nap – 5-6 hours awake – bed

Naps are very beneficial at this age, even though nights will shorten quite a bit with a napping preschooler. Allow enough wake time in afternoon/evening to rebuild sleep pressure for a smoother bedtime.

1 -2 hours

Night Time Baby Sleep Schedule


No. of Feedings/Wakings

Night Sleep Notes

Total Night Sleep

0 - 4 Months

On demand under three months. After three months 2-3 feedings after first 4-5 hour stretch

months. After three months 2-3 feedings after first 4-5 hour stretch
Bedtimes are late and erratic in the first 2-3 months, but drift earlier and regulate around the third month. First third of the night consolidates around 3 months. Last third remains erratic. Some babies will sleep long 7-9 hour stretches in the first 3 months, which often changes suddenly around 4 months (4-month regression). Swaddling essential unless rolling. Start good sleep hygiene (dark, cool, quiet rooms) around 7-10 weeks.

9-11 hours Approx total sleep in 24 hours: 15 – 16

4 - 6 Months

2-1 feedings after first 5-8 hour stretch

Regular bed and wake times, with well consolidated sleep before first and second feedings. feedings. Great sleep environments. Stop swaddle with rolling. Avoid dream feedings. Last third of the night remains erratic. Four (or 5, or 6) month regression is common)Sleep Training may begin if desired.

10 – 12 hours Approx total sleep in 24 hours: 13.5 – 15 (if your baby is sleeping 4 hours during the day, it is unlikely s/he will do a 12 hour night)

6 - 9 Months

7-9 hours without feeding, then 0-1 feedings

Older babies who are still taking three average length naps will almost certainly not do 12 hours. Night lengthens (bedtime earlier) when third nap drops awake. Full night consistency is developing through the last third of the night. Babies are old enough to find pacifier around 7-8 months old.

10.5 – 12 hours Approx total sleep in 24 hours: 13.5 – 15

9 - 18 Months

Parents’ choice. May be helpful to have one feeding in last third of the night for extended breastfeeding.

Separation anxiety and developmental milestones may cause new regressions.

10.5 – 12 hours Approx total sleep in 24 hours: 13 – 14

1.5 - 3 Years

Parents’ choice. Early morning feeding may help with extended breastfeeding.

Long period of regularity. Fears and bedtime battles at bedtime may appear.

10-12 hours Approx total sleep in 24 hours: 12 – 14

3+ Years

Parents’ choice

Non napping preschoolers need at least 11 hours of night sleep. Napping preschoolers may only do 11-12 hours total in 24 hours.

9-11+ hours Approx total sleep in 24 hours 11 +/-

Sleep Schedule Important!!

Not all babies are the same and it is important to remember that the tables above are according to the average number of hours of sleep and that it varies from baby to baby according to their needs, it is very important to see how your baby functions while he or she are awake.

Now, after you understood the importance of sleep, the challenges when and how much your baby should sleep here are 5 steps you can start today for a quite night and a healthier night sleep. These 5 steps will help you and your baby achieve a better night sleep and get up refreshed in the morning.

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Baby Sleep Training And Baby Sleep Schedule

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Baby Sleep Training and baby sleep schedule – all the does and don’ts you need to know from now

A guide for healthy sleeping habits, training and schedule for babies and toddlers.

This guide will help imparting quality sleep in your baby, independence and security for you parents.

Thanks to parent’s awareness regarding sleeping habits and schedule, every parent can enjoy from now on a quiet night and continuous sleep for himself and his children.

WARNING: This guide can change parents' life and make them sleep all night long.

Many parents asked us questions like:

  • I do everything, but my baby does not sleep, why?
  • My child wakes up 3 times a night and I cannot seem to get him back to sleep, what to do?
  • Our baby is not willing to sleep in his bed, he constantly asks us to be swaddle and we are forced to put him to sleep with us, how can we change that?
  • How much sleep does my baby needs?
  • When does my child sleep a continuous night without waking up?
  • We are really lost and desperate ... The boy is crying all the time, what are we doing wrong?
  • My child is too hyperactive, he just does not get tired and it is hard tout him to sleep, how do we deal with him?

There are many more questions that parents ask and all have one common denominator - What should be done in order for a baby to sleep a continuous night sleep without waking up in the middle?

In our experience, one of the most important elements in educating children is to instill healthy and correct sleeping habits. With proper sleeping habits it is possible to overcome many obstacles, to develop independence in your baby and of course security for you the parents.

You have finished with your family bedtime ritual – bath then a massage, pyjamas, a short story and your little one is already yawning and rubbing their eyes, but you see that they are not ready to go to sleep. They want to play again, or maybe they are afraid to stay alone or prefer to fall asleep only on your arms. Why is it so hard for them to fall asleep?

When I'm asked what is the most lovely moment on my agenda with the children, I always get confused. Sometimes it seems to me that the most charming moment is when they open their eyes in the morning, warm and juicy like a fresh bun, and at other moments I think it is when they enter kindergarten and school and let me go for a few hours or the pleasure of taking them back to my lap in the afternoon. But, honestly, the moment they are the sweetest, and

I hope you will not say a bad word about my motherhood, is when they fall asleep at night. How relaxing. How idyllic. And in order to reach the desired moment, in which they are covered in their beds and immersed in a sweet dream, I am willing to do everything.


Why is it really hard for babies and children to fall asleep? Michel Dowson, a clinical and medical psychologist and chief psychologist at the ST Children's Development Center, has three main reasons: The biological cause – When a baby is born he/she still does not distinguish between day and night and we as parents need to help them acquire regular sleeping habits; The emotional reason - children suffer from fear and anxiety and therefore have trouble falling asleep and reject sleep as much as possible, and the developmental reason that characterises some of the older children, for whom sleep is an expression of power struggles with parents.

So how do you overcome the difficulties of falling asleep? Dowson explains that most babies feel the atmosphere at home and get used to it. In the same way, the baby feels that the whole family is preparing for sleep, that the night is coming down and that it is time to sleep. By the end of their first year of life, most babies acquire the biological tendency and understand sleep time. Of course there are babies who need more time to understand the differences between day and night, so we do not expect the same behaviour from all.

"The sleep cycle is indeed a biological thing," says Dowson, "but it was also acquired and studied. It is very important to help the baby adjust to family sleeping habits and, more importantly, to let him learn to fall asleep alone with as little intervention as possible by parents. We do it naturally; in the day we act with the baby alertly - provoking him with games, talking loudly, arousing his attention, and conversely in the evening we lower our voices, speak calmly and darken the room. The baby, on the other hand, picks up these messages, thus acquiring the distinction between day and night.

"In time, the baby should be accustomed to regular sleeping rituals that bring him even more into the atmosphere of sleep and to absorb the message - go to bed," notes Dowson. The "ritual" accepted by most families is: eating because it is known that those who are full sleep better, bathing - no matter whether it is a bath or a partial wash of the face and hands only and brushing teeth - a sleeping environment such as turning off lights, lowering sound (in speech and on television) Which helps to make the difference between day and night. For toddlers and children, reading a story will also be appropriate for this stage.

The sleep ceremony varies from family to family, but its components are more or less common to all families with children of different ages. But what about bedtime? It is changing from child to child and from parent to parent. There are parents that are very strict with evening hours and they are very important to them and they want more free, quite time for themselves, while there are others who needs more time with their babies at night.

"It's important to be realistic," stresses Dowson. "If a year ago your seven-year-old son fell asleep at 8 PM and today he cannot fall asleep before nine - consider that. The younger siblings should also realise that the older one needs less sleep. In addition, if the child sleeps an afternoon and at night is having trouble sleeping, you may want to consider giving up the afternoon nap. In any case, it is important to remember that there are no clear rules on this issue, and that the hours vary between families and children."

How do you help your baby fall asleep on his own?

Dowson: "First of all, you identify your baby's first signs of fatigue and put them in their bed. Maybe it will just work sometimes. If a baby or toddler is having a hard time falling asleep on his own, the problem may be the parent's desires – they enjoy singing, swaddling, falling asleep with their baby, and thinking that it is easier for their baby to fall asleep.

"Some parents have gotten used to putting the children to sleep while driving around the block or in the hustle of the living room when the television is on, and some parents go too far and operate a vacuum cleaner or a hair dryer to create monotonous mechanical noise that will help their babies fall asleep. When the difficulty of falling asleep is great, it is impossible to rule out the different ways in which the parents think they can help their babies, but it is clear that they should be avoided and that the baby (and later the child) should learn to fall asleep without any help and on their own."

There are a few methods to improve your baby ability to fall asleep and sleep through movement. Most babies find it difficult to fall asleep because they do not get the right conditions for sleep. Conditions include physical ease, security, movement, closeness to parents, some of the basic conditions known to parents. Also, some babies have different problems that affect sleep: breathing problems, high muscle tone, torticollis, cervical and so on.

When you try to put your baby to sleep, take several steps:

Movement – try moving your baby monotonous rhythms and gradually reduce the rate of movement to total relaxation. Your baby needs a movement to which he has become accustomed in the womb.

Voice - parallel to movement, we use voice. We start out louder when the child is not relaxed, and then we tone down. Many parents fear that their child will become accustomed to falling asleep on their hands and thus they will have to calm him regularly, this claim is not correct when the above conditions are met, and after falling asleep you should place your baby immediately in his/her bed."

In the first three months of your baby's life, your baby must be swaddle, because it is the safest condition.

After the age of three or four months, and after your baby has received his/her first dose of safety, start offering your baby the ability to sleep separately. This process is not simple and must be done gradually, not to forget that this is a learning process of adapting to a new life.

What to do when independent sleeping fails and it is accompanied by weeping and crying?

First, crying does not have to be an alarm clock for parents and you should not be alarmed by any whimpering. It is very important to acknowledge your baby when he or she cries, but do not jump up and make him/her stop crying immediately. A parent should also know how to contain a baby’s crying. This is part of parenting.

In that case, you can come to the room and calm your baby down. This means literally or actually your presence, 'It's okay, we're here,' 'You're going to sleep and we're here for you.' It is important to make this mission without noise and mess but quietly and in as short a time as possible. They do not turn on light and are not tempted to take it out of bed and wake it up again."

Even if you have not given your baby independent sleep habits from infancy, it's never too late. The larger the task, the harder and more complex the task, but the key to success is consistency and persistence.

So how do you get your baby to fall asleep on their own?

We all know that the ideal situation is independent sleep habits of the baby. It's easy to say, difficult to perform, but there are those who will say that with a little knowledge this is definitely possible. Here are some known methods:

The five-minute method - according to the method, which is appropriate from the first few months of your baby's life, you should allow your baby to fall asleep on their own. Leave the room, quietly swallow the crying and the supplications, and return three to five minutes later to show your baby that you are there for them. After several cycles of exit and entering the room pass your baby picks up the principle and then falls asleep on their own.

The pros of the five-minute method: you can find many parents in around the world who will say that it worked for them and for their baby.

The cons of the five-minute method: many psychologists and parents can be found to say that this is abuse for its own sake, and that a baby needs a lot of warmth and closeness, especially in the first months of his/her life.

The whispering method for infants - the principle is this: trying to put the baby in his bed so that he falls asleep on his own. When he does not show enthusiasm, what usually happens, and lack of enthusiasm leads to crying, holding him on your hands and swaddling until he calms down and then lay him back down again in bed. The baby cries again? Do not give up, lift him back up and swaddle, hold him until he comes down and leave. It can repeat itself many times in the first night and in the following nights, but according to the Methodist Tracy Hogg, parents should see results even as early as the second night.

The pros of the whispering method for infants: because if it works it's great, for us we are covered: we calmed, held, did not abandon, so that when the baby did relax and fell asleep, we had a good outcome.

The cons of the whispering method for infants: Because you can quickly get to a frustrating and discouraging situation and not really enjoy the screams rising in the air. The method mainly engages the mother to start breastfeeding. According to the principles of the method, when the mother is breastfeeding, the father should take control of the process in this method, because it may make it easier for all the parties. If so, then maybe dear mother, tell your husband only the "pros" ...

The sleeping like a baby method – A method from a doctor who deals with sleeping disorders in infants and children, and the author of "Sleeping Like a Baby" book, parents should create regular rituals and patterns to help their baby acquire good sleeping habits. The important principle is to create clear boundaries between the atmosphere of the day and the atmosphere of the night at home.

The pros of the sleeping like a baby method: Because it makes sense, human and even achievable.

The cons of the sleeping like a baby method: Because not all of us are built for this ritualism that somewhere stops the entire order of the house – make everything dark, quiet, change your patterns and behaviour ... But maybe there is simply no choice.

The stay with your baby method - Staying with the baby is the soft version of the five-minute method. We do not touch, we do not talk, we do not interfere, but we are there, we stay in our baby’s room until he/she falls asleep.

The pros of the stay with your baby method: Because there is no abandonment of the baby who signals that he needs us.

The cons of the stay with your baby method: You can break down quickly when you see your baby crying, or your toddler reaching for a hug.

Using a transitional object – your baby gets used to a doll, an old teddy bear, or a ragged, torn diaper, and falls asleep with it until dawn.

The pros of using a transitional object: Because it is a great solution, effective, does not require a lot of energy and creates an atmosphere of relaxation at home. Today, psychologists find many benefits in the transitional objects.

The cons of the using a transitional object: because after you have solved the problem of sleep you will have to give your child a long and exhausting rehabilitation program. it's worth?

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Your Personal Baby Sleep Guide – The ultimate Parenting Guide to Your Baby Sleep

Baby sleeping

Nearly everything you need to know

By BabyPillars

The basic guide to baby sleep every parent should start with.

Hush baby hush … At nighttime we sleep: the basic sleeping guide for parents and babies.

Your baby's sleeping habits depend first on you the parent. What is important to know and do at any age, and no less important - what not to do. Welcome to the family guide for your infant sleep.

In short:

  1. When you see signs of fatigue appear, signs like: rubbing eyes, pulling ears, crying etc. this is the time to lay your baby to sleep. A baby should sleep on a hard mattress - lying on his back.
  2. From the early age of 6 months, you should avoid "helping" your baby fall asleep: do not swing or hold them on your hands, and don’t stay long in their room so that they will learn to fall asleep on their own.
  3. From the age of one to three years, your baby should already know how to fall asleep on their own and sleep most of the night. It is also a great age to start and set clear boundaries with sleep and in general.

Your baby had you up all night? The same old tired you at work feeling like a zombie with red eyes? Keep in mind that you determine your baby's sleeping habits, and you can also change them.

Every baby has his/her own patterns of sleep and wakefulness that are naturally divided throughout the day. Every baby has short periods of waking during the night (yes every baby). Each baby is different from the other, and your child's sleeping habits may be different from your friends' baby sleeping habits or different from your adult children's sleeping habits when they were the same age.

Once you have identified your baby's day by day sleeping pattern, you can plan your day routine to help your baby (and the rest of the family) sleep better and sleep well. These sleeping patterns affects your infant behaviour throughout the day, his/her development, health and his/her overall state of life.

From birth until two months

In the first few weeks after birth, your baby's sleep may be fragmented during the day it’s OK and very normal. Each sleep chapter can take between half an hour and three hours, and the night's sleep cycle may be interrupted by periods of waking. Around the age of six weeks, your baby sleeping pattern should begin to organise in a more orderly fashion. During sleep you may see your baby active: sucking, making jerky movements in his/her hands, smiling, making movements with his/her mouth. All of these reflect normal sleep for this age.

Two months to a year

During this stage of your baby life your baby should gradually acquires regular and predictable sleep habits. Between 2 months and 4 months you will notice a fairly constant rhythm of sleep and wakefulness during the day. From the age of three months to six months, most babies begin to sleep most of the night. At the age of twelve months’ infants need less sleep during daytime and the amount of daytime sleeps are reduced from three or four times a day to only once or twice a day.

One to three years

Toddlers will usually give up the morning nap from the age of 18 months or so. The need for an afternoon will usually disappear between the ages of three and five years. At this point, most infants will sleep a continuous night, but different events (such as illness, walking, or moving) may temporarily interfere with their normal sleep patterns.

From a cot to a bed - The transition to a single bed or a child bed may be characterised by some adjustments and difficulties, especially if it is too early in your child’s life. Most toddlers move from a cot to a bed between the ages of two and four.
If you find it difficult to wake up your child in the morning, he or she may not sleep as well as you think at night. The length of sleep varies from child to child, but in most cases, the hours needed for a child are quite regular.

How long should the child sleep?

From birth to about 2 months’ sleep is irregular (sorry mammy), but overall the expected sleep duration for a baby for a day ranges from 10 to 18 hours and on average: 14 hours and a half.

Between the ages of 2 months and 2 years’ your baby day sleep schedule is more continuous and includes fewer sleep periods a day and longer hours through the night. The average duration of sleep in a day is 14 hours and a half: 11-10 hours at night and 3-5 hours throughout the day.

Between one and three years of age, your cute toddler becomes much more active during the day and should sleep continuously at night. The expected length of sleep is 13-14 hours on average: about 11 hours and a half at night and another two hours throughout the day.

How to help a baby sleep better?

Put your baby to sleep immediately when you notice the signs of fatigue: rubbing his/her eyes, pulling ears, crying etc. In the first two months you can help your baby fall asleep by swinging the crib or feeding until they and you fall asleep, but from the age of three months on, you should gradually avoid doing so and give your baby regular sleep habits. A baby has to sleep on a hard mattress and when he/she lies on their back.

After about two months’ start focusing on regular sleep habits like: darken the room at night and throughout the day while going to sleep, reduce your baby’s social activity at night and before bedtime etc. If you are tired, ask your partner or a family member to allow you a recharge and look after your baby, make sure you sleep and fill in the missing hours of sleep you as the parent so desperately need. Tired and nervous parents do not do their job properly. When you wake up, continue to take care of the baby, much more relaxed and re energised.

When your baby is two to three-month-old you should start building normal and regular sleeping habits. Consider things that both you and your baby will enjoy: bath time, baby massage, changing your clothes into sleepwear (PJs), hugging and kissing gently, a quiet and pleasant song or anything that pleases you and your baby. It is advisable to repeat these sleeping activities and habits you chose every evening, even when someone else puts your baby down to sleep.

Starting from the age of six months, you should avoid "helping" your baby fall asleep: do not swing or hold on your hands, and do not stay for a long time in his/her room so that he or she learns to fall asleep on their own. Babies tend to wake up every hour and a half, and if you get them back to sleep with help, they will need this help also at night when they wake up. It is important to start this process around the age of six months.

Bedtime Routine

The bedtime routine should not be long, and the last stage of the routine should be in your baby's room. A pleasant and relaxing environment for sleeping is a darken room which is ventilated and quiet. The degree of lighting during bedtime should be similar to the degree of lighting during sleep time (and without TV flickers or mobile device). Lay your baby down when he/she is tired but still awake. Thus your baby will get used to falling asleep on his/her own even when he/she wakes up at night.

Between the ages of one to three years, your child should already know how to fall asleep on his/her own and sleep most of the night. It is important to continue to maintain your regular sleeping habits and routine and the hours of sleep and awakening should be fixed both at day time and at night. It is also the age to start and set clear sleep boundaries. For example, read your baby a story before bedtime, you will notice that your baby will ask again and again to read to him/her one more time or to have a drink of water or give a kiss to Dad, they just want to postpone bed time as much as they can.

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When Do Babies Start Walking?

When Do Babies Start Walking

Parents eagerly await the day when their baby is ready to stretch her legs and start walking on her own. Walking is a more complicated and advanced milestone, with several requirements for muscle development and coordination. Because of this, many children work up to walking slowly, and they have a wide range of time for when they are expected to start walking. Babies typically begin to walk around nine months, but it can be as late as fifteen months before they start. Most of the timing of when they will begin to walk is determined by the child’s will as much as their surroundings and available resources. This will further affect their ability to walk at a more practiced level. When a baby begins walking around nine months, it is easier for them to be walking more confidently on their own around fifteen months. So while some early and eager babies are walking well enough on their own, other solid and steady babies might just be beginning to try their legs out. Typically, your baby will be walking on his or her own by the age of two.

When Babies Start Walking?

What parent doesn’t like to see his or her child begin to walk? Walking is one of the bigger milestones, and it is because of this that a lot of time is needed in order to bring the action into fruition, and indeed, a lot of time is given.

One of the easiest ways to estimate when your child will begin to walk is to find out when you and the baby’s other parent began to walk. Genetics will have some critical influence over the development of the baby in the beginning of his life; this will be seen again and again, and walking is one of the ways in which it can give you an estimate to start with. It is important to remember that estimations are just that, and they can be tweaked as new information comes. For example, if you and your spouse both walked at around nine months, it would be reasonable to estimate that your child will begin to walk around the same time. With this, my husband and I were both early walkers, and our children ended up beginning to walk around the nine-month mark.

While it is good to keep your baby’s genetic heritage in mind, it will still be possible that your child will have no interest in moving around on his own; this is part of the reason understanding your baby’s temperament will also allow you to give your baby reasonable expectations for his milestones, including walking. This is important to remember especially so you do not try to push your son or daughter into walking too soon, which can be both harmful and counteractive.

Walking is not a simple movement. Everything that the child has done since birth will affect his or her ability and desire to walk. For example, their eyesight should be developed so they can see different things and cultivate an interest in checking those things out. A sense of curiosity and wonder about the world around them should also be encouraged; this sense of adventure and excitement will often prompt babies to begin moving, as seen in crawling, and pulling themselves up on their feet to see higher up. Along with this, their muscles need to be developed enough where their legs can support them, they are able to establish and keep their balance, and they have the upper body strength to get up onto their feet in the first place. Walking is a complicated motion, one that is built up over months of learning how to sit, crawl, and pull up on objects.

Strategies to Get Your Baby Moving

There are several techniques and approaches you can use in order to help get your baby up and walking. Starting out with help in moving, using a lure, and working with different devices and toys have all shown positive results among parents.

Most parents are comfortable starting out small. They help a child sit up by sitting behind them, and they want to help their child by holding his arms or his belly while he tries walking. This is where you can easily walk your child through the different movements that will help him transition from sitting up to walking. If you have your spouse or a second part of hands, one of you will be able to use your hands to steady your baby as he attempts to take steps. You can gradually loosen your support while he begins to walk more confidently.

Using a lure can be an effective method of getting your baby interested in moving. Many babies will begin crawling in hopes of getting milk from their mom or their bottle. Food can be seen as a good incentive. My husband and I would sometimes put little cheddar goldfish on the coffee table, to see if our kids wanted it enough to reach up and pull themselves up—more than once they were able to knock the goldfish crackers off the table, so you’ll need to be more clever about it than we were. This encouraged them to try to get up off the floor and balance on their feet. I’ve heard of other parents doing similar things, such as leaving toys up on tables or on the couch in order to get their kids to try to practice both pulling themselves up as well as walking.

Devices and walking toys can be helpful in some cases in getting your child to start walking. However, there has been some controversy among the parenting community regarding devices like walkers. Some people have found that they are dangerous in homes with stairs, for example, and others have had their children develop bowlegs as a result of using a walker or bouncer too early. For this one, it is best to research all of the positive and negative reviews and reports on them. I have found this method of research to be very helpful in establishing good judgments on these matters. Sometimes understanding the wide range of differences can help you see where you will stand on the issue. For my family, my kids had a walker that doubled up as a bouncy seat. We didn’t have any staircases in our house, and it was carpeted, so most of the complaints about the walker did not apply to us. We did change our mind about the bumbo chair, however, where there were several studies that showed it could be detrimental to the baby’s spinal development. Since we did not want to worry about that, we got rid of the bumbo chair.

One thing we did keep using was a musical stroller. We had a small, baby doll stroller that our son would use to grip onto the handles and be able to push it. While it was in motion, the stroller would play music and he would laugh as well as enjoy the incentive of moving so it would keep playing. This is something that I would still highly recommend to parents, as my daughter also really loved it.

Many parents have used toys and even obedient pets as helpful items to get their kids moving. Putting toys up on counters, or items that have been lying around on the floor while your child was learning to crawl, for example, can be helpful and similar to the use of the lure technique. Using a toy instead of an edible lure, like my family with the goldfish crackers, can be helpful in that your child will be able to do this many times without getting upset that her food is gone, and you can easily take the opportunity to specifically work through the different motions. Showing your baby each step of getting up, from crawling on their bellies, to pushing up with their arms, to getting on their knees, to pulling up with their arms, and finally balancing with their feet on the ground—all of these steps add practice time while they have a toy to distract them and you to help them.

When Babies Start Walking?

Building Confidence

Confidence comes with practice and encouragement. This is where knowing your child and her preferences can really help. In addition to praising your kids for taking their steps, and your comfort when they fall, you can also use your words to cheer them on. While hugs and kisses and snuggles can usually solve tears, you might want to consider using treats or small snacks to encourage your child to get up and move more. I would call my children’s names and tell them I had some applesauce or pudding for them, and that would make them come quickly (Mom’s food is always the best.) In addition, you can take pictures. Taking pictures might be able to help you as much as it can help them; you will be able to see their progress as they continue to try, and when they finally start to walk in strides, you will be able to really see the changes. Even though the babies will go through many changes physically during this time, it can be amazing to see it replayed on videos or in pictures. There are a lot of smaller details that your memory can lose over time.

When to Consult a Doctor

If you are nearing the fifteen-month mark of your baby’s life, and he or she is still not walking, this might be a good time to set up an appointment with your baby’s doctor. It is still considered normal for a child at this age to be working up to walking; some parents have said that their children did not walk until seventeen or eighteen months of age. However, if you are unsure of your child’s muscle development, or your baby seems to have little interest in the world around him or her, then it would be best to seek professional advice.

There are some conditions which can affect your child’s ability to walk. I know several mothers who have had preemie babies that they were guided to a therapist in order to get their babies moving between the ages of one and two. Of course, if your baby was born earlier than expected, this is something that you would have kept in mind and expected. Still, there are baby therapists who can show you some exercises and work with your baby as he or she grows.

In addition to preemie babies, there are some health conditions which might affect your baby, whether they have been passed through the baby’s genes or if there was some trauma related to the birth. Many children who experience these things can still easily live a normal life, and it is important to use their milestones as a way to keep planning for their next step with good expectations and hopeful attitudes.

When Do Babies Start Walking? Our Conclusion

Many babies will begin working up to walking long before they actually walk. This is seen in their increasing movement and interest in everyday life; their ambition and adventurous endeavors will shine through their actions and their reactions. When your baby takes his or her first steps, you will see this clearly. Most babies will begin to walk around nine months, but they can learn to walk as late as fifteen months, or even possibly a few months later. In order to get to that point, and to encourage them to move beyond, it will require patience, understanding, and humility. Learning different tricks of the trade to get your baby moving can really help, and if you are struggling, your baby’s doctor will be more than able to answer your questions regarding your baby’s health and development. It is good to keep it in mind that all the work and love you put into your baby will be worth it in the end, when you see your child walking for the first time, and the pride you will feel as they walk confidently toward their future.

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When Do Babies Begin to Talk?

Babies start talking around the six-month mark, but learning language is a more complex skill to acquire. As a result, even though a child may be able to say small words at six months, such as “mama,” or “dada,” or “baba,” she may not start talking clearly or talking in full sentences until she is two years or older. Some children do not speak well until they reach the age of four. Many factors, such as support, education, environment, and even genetics can influence how fast your child begins to talk clearly.

When Do Babies Begin to Talk?

From Babbling to Talking: An Introductory Overview

One of the bigger milestones that parents watch for is when babies start to talk. Parents eagerly await their child being able to talk clearly, use words well, and speak in full sentences. Who hasn’t tried to get their child to say “mama” or “dada” as a first word? Besides walking, talking is the most anticipated milestone among parents, especially new parents.

0-3 Months

Many experts will agree that it is never too early to begin teaching your child about language. Even while your baby is still in the womb, it is good to talk to him or her and let your baby become accustomed to your voice; this is not only a good bonding experience between the parents and the baby, but it is also a great way to get the baby to associate your voice with kindness and interest. This will help their learning ability and interest to grow later on.

Once the baby is born, talking to your baby continues this same idea. There are a couple of different ways to engage your child in working on his speech; it is good to try out the different methods a few times each, to see what your baby responds to and what she likes. The first method is simple; it is just talking to your baby. You can talk regularly, telling your baby what you are doing or what you are thinking. Many people call this way the more organic way of doing things, because it is just like having a one-sided conversation. You can also try stimulating your baby’s interest by using props. Getting your baby used to words by showing items or objects such as toys, or words and pictures on flash cards, means you are helping them to absorb the language and also allows them to observe you as you speak. Many babies will learn to imitate the sounds they hear by mimicking the way the mouth moves. I have a mom who is a speech-language pathologist, and she will often help kids learn new words by forming a child’s mouth, lips, and movement in the shape of the word. You can do similar things, by enunciating, and encouraging your child to do simple movements. At 0-3 months, many “b” sounds are easily encouraged as the bilabial sounds are among the easiest to develop. “M” sounds are also common because the baby commonly starts out with no teeth, making the “m” sound easier, even though the movement of the lips together can stump them for a bit.

During the 0-3 month period, some babies can learn several new words; however, these words will likely not be traditional or formal words. They will be more like syllables or gargles. Sounds like “ba” for bottle, for example, will indicate more of what he or she is saying. As your child grows, he will learn about how to say different sounds and make the connection between different names and objects. There is no need to worry about teaching him or feeling like a failure if he does not learn any specific words during this time. It is unlikely during this time that your baby will say words, but her sounds and her syllables will be able to give you hints as to what she wants or what she needs.

3-6 Months

By the 3-6 mark of your baby’s first year, your baby has begun to move his legs and arms more, and lift his head and enjoy tummy time much more. This is a time where they are seeing more of the world, and they are growing into their routines. It was during this time for my children that a routine became more obvious. Routines can be a good thing, because it can really help new parents find time to structure in learning activities; however, early on in the baby’s life, routines will need to be evaluated more often as the child grows. My son, for example, did not want to have his third nap of the day after he reached the six-month mark. For my daughter, she did not enjoy tummy time unless my husband was home to play with her. Eventually, as she began crawling, she would prefer me to sit with her while she moved around.

When it comes to routines with language, at this age it can be more easy to sit the baby down in a high chair and work on his language using toys and food, or showing him objects while he is sitting. This is where some friends of mine would use flash cards, to help the baby learn new words. Others I know would play short movies, usually with songs with motions, like “If You’re Happy and You Know It,” or “Head, Shoulders, Knees and Toes.”

As your baby gets closer to the six-month mark, it is likely that he will begin trying to sound out words. Even if he or she cannot be clear about it, it is good to encourage your child in his or her efforts. During this time, it is possible for “mama” and “dada” to come up.

When Do Babies Begin to Talk?

6-12 Months

Between six and twelve months is when babies will start saying more words. This is the time when most experts agree that your baby will begin using words such as “mama” and “dada” and other easy words as well, usually no more than two syllables in length. During this time, infants will learn between five and ten new words, likely phrases or words they hear at home. My kids learned “kitty” very quickly, because we had two cats running around the house. Many parents will see the same things happening around their kids and their lives.

12-24 Months

A growing pattern of progress should continue during this time. Around the eighteenth month mark, your child will begin to form sentences with two or more words. Their vocabulary and knowledge of different words will continue to grow, though it may take some time to see significant progress, depending on the level of exposure. Many parents with more than one child will find that the subsequent children are able to pick up language use more quickly. This largely results from more exposure. I know my children play together, and because of this, there is a large amount of time that they spent interacting with the same toys and places. This is another reason why several parents who put their kids in daycare will often see progress differently from parents who keep their babies at home, particularly if their child is their only child. This difference among the way parents raise kids and the environments in which they live and work is also another reason why some kids respond differently to learning language.

As your baby grows into a toddler, their command of language will reflect that. They will likely be able to identify more objects and they will begin to repeat phrases. This is where the parents become more alert when it comes to their children hearing particular phrases or family secrets, fearful that it might be repeated or brought up in the wrong context. While this prompts more caution and discreteness from parents.

Things to Watch

Since every child grows and learns at his or her own pace, and learning something as complex as language requires time, practice, and incentive, it can be difficult to determine if there is an exact time to worry. If you suspect your child has a speech problem, whether it is learning new words, or remembering old words, you may want to consult with the child’s pediatrician. Having some documentation can also help, especially in the event that your baby’s doctor will ask for specific examples or concerns. This is part of the reason many speech and communication disorders are able to be formally diagnosed between two and three years of age now.

Genetics can also offer a clue when it comes time to worry. Many people will look to their peers and their peers’ children to gauge where their kids are in terms of development. However, it is better to look at family history for milestone development, including when kids will begin to talk.

When Do Babies Begin to Talk?


A lot of things will affect your child’s ability to begin to talk and learn new words. Having a supportive home, where the parents can spend time with the baby, is a large part of that. Supportive environments can easily allow for parents to be focused on the future development of their babies, so that the parents can try out new ways to keep their children’s interests high. When kids are interested, they will learn.

When it comes to helping your baby learn to talk, the best resource you have is yourself. Surrounding the baby with people talking to him directly will help him learn how to use words to communicate with other people. Exposure to words, giving your baby a chance to mimic your words and mouth’s movements—all of this helps your baby learn to talk. There are several other things you as a parent can do to help your child learn. Many parents will sing to their children, and ask questions, keeping their attention, and using their time together to bond with simple and silly songs. It can be scary to sing to your children at first, but some kids do love it a lot. My son was not adverse to it, but my daughter just loved it. It was not long before she would try to sing along, even though she wasn’t sure of the words. She would use her voice to do the different pitches while I sang.

Books are great to introduce to children early on. This can also help with language development, and books will become more of a resource when your baby is ready to learn how to read. Just as learning how to speak is a process that can span over the first several years of your baby’s life, learning to read requires several years, too. That is part of the reason there is a strong correlation between early readers and books; getting your children to love learning and seeing you love spending the time to teach them is a valuable gift.

In addition to reading, singing, and talking, it can also be fun to take a look at the technology available to helping you and your baby develop her skills. There are several applications and technologies that will help your child engage with new words and pictures. I have known several parents who will buy games for their phones specifically for their children, in case they are needed for particular situations, such as when the child has to wait. The good news about this is that there are a lot of programs and companies that design apps for helping kids learn and play. There are several free and inexpensive learning puzzles, games, pictures, and activities available for Apple and Android products.


When it comes to growing, particularly for talking, many babies will find and settle into their own paces. Learning is different for every child, and since language is much more complex than it seems to an adult, babies talk at a variety of different times. While most babies can begin using words as early as six months, it is important to keep in mind that time, practice, and growth will all factor into your baby’s ability to speak. Over the course of the first two to four years of their lives, they will learn how to use words and language to communicate. By the time they are three years old, they will be using sentences, longer and clearer, to talk with others.

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When Do Babies Sit Up? Complete Parent Guide [2019]

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Sitting up is a milestone many parents look for, especially as a precursor to walking. Signs for sitting up usually occur around three months, making the average amount of time it takes for babies to sit up around four months. Up to this point, babies are getting more exercise with tummy time, strengthening their core muscles and their necks and backs; these are the critical areas babies need to develop in order to sit up. While time and practice is the best method for getting your baby ready to sit up, there are some techniques and resources which can help facilitate this milestone development.

When Do Babies Sit Up? Complete Parent Guide.

Babies Sitting Up: An Introductory Overview

Babies often sit up when they are close to four months old. On average, it takes babies between four and seven months to be able to sit up. There are several other milestones that a baby can reach during this time that are complementary to this skill, largely because it requires the same degree of physical development and autonomy.  Below are some of the specific signs, accompanied by more details.

Once you recognize the signs that your baby is ready to sit up, there are several techniques and tricks of the trade you can use to help him develop this skill and achieve this milestone. All of the techniques listed here are supportive and easily incorporated into routine for the baby, so it will be simple for you as a parent to encourage your child to grow in a healthy, happy manner.

Developing skills often take time. In addition to listing some of the techniques you can use, there are also some general tips for attitude and intention on your part as the parent. The hardest part of being a parent is mastering consistency. Many people often forget that parenting requires the parents to be learners as much as they are teachers. When it comes to working with sitting up, being a pillar of support will be a literal as well as metaphorical role. Much like their children, it is good for parents to remain focused but flexible.

With every milestone, there does come a point where questions and concerns plague the parents, especially if the milestone is not reached in the average amount of time, or even for a significant period after the milestone’s parameters. Because of this concern, there are some signs that you might want to ask a doctor about.

Finally, sitting up has several signs, but it is also a sign in itself; your baby is growing and getting ready to take on the world on her own terms. It is a warm, fun time in your baby’s life, and just like things that are fun, there are some times when things can seem too hard, too stressful, and too worrisome. But keep in mind that all babies, as much as we might hate it some days and long for it on others, were meant to grow up and grow into adults. We must be vigilant and supportive without being smothering; we must be brave and face our fear as our child begins to face his world.

Sitting up is a milestone many parents look for, especially as a precursor to walking. Signs for sitting up usually occur around three months, making the average amount of time it takes for babies to sit up around four months. Up to this point, babies are getting more exercise with tummy time, strengthening their core muscles and their necks and backs; these are the critical areas babies need to develop in order to sit up. While time and practice is the best method for getting your baby ready to sit up, there are some techniques and resources which can help facilitate this milestone development.

When Do Babies Sit Up? Complete Parent Guide.

Signs Your Baby is Ready to Begin Sitting Up

At the four-month mark, as mentioned in previous articles, there are other similar skills which are being developed. At this point, your baby is likely able to roll from his tummy to his back, or he is working towards it. This is one of the signs that your baby is ready to try sitting. To be fully prepared for this, there are physical requirements, and supplementary support from parents.

If you think about what it takes to be able to sit up, particularly sitting up straight, it might be easy or tempting to think it is simple just because it is easy. For a baby to sit up, her muscles in her back and neck will need to be strong enough to hold up her head and keep her balance. Balance also comes into play concerning her hips. Keeping balance with the hipbones is what allows people to sit up continuously. Finally, your baby’s muscles will also have to work in order for her to be able to move her body into position.

Many parents will help their babies learn to sit up by placing them on their laps. Many times, my kids have begun learning to sit as they sat in my lap and leaned against my torso and supported their legs against mine. This is how many parents will go about starting the process of learning to sit up for their children. It is a nice way; I know this from experience as well as doctor recommendations. If you place your baby in a sitting position on the floor by herself, she will likely slump over or fall to her tummy in a matter of seconds.

Another common sign that your baby is ready to sit up on his own is moving his feet, or reaching for objects out of his reach. If your baby shows a growing determination and curiosity for the world around him, it is likely that he will begin to experiment with sitting up, moving, and rolling over soon.

Developing Skills

Getting a baby used to the sitting position is part of practicing. This is part of the reason that I would sit my kids on my lap first; it is a good way to get started, because it is good in getting them used to the movements as well as getting them used to the positions. This helps them ease into it, and you can begin teaching them how to sit up by going backwards, starting from the sitting position, and going back down to their tummy or their back. This can also help your baby with his skills in rolling over; extra benefits are always nice for parents, too. I have noticed with my new parent friends especially that there is a bit more hesitation when you get started, so having the baby sit in your lap might be just as supportive and comforting to you as it is to your child.

As you continue to engage with your baby, during your time practicing, you will begin to see further signs your baby is ready to go from sitting in your lap to sitting up on his or her own. It is likely that if you practice often from the four-month mark, especially going over the motions required to move from a laying down position to a sit-up position, your baby will do it on his own when he wants to.

With this new amount of freedom your baby has, there are always some things in which general rules will help. To prevent unpleasant accidents, make sure your child has plenty of open space to explore. Keeping your baby on a blanket or sheet while you practice can also help. This is something that might especially come in handy if you have hard floors in your home. For my kids, I had a play mat that was just large enough for me to lay them on and have some space for me to sit next to them. I would teach them to sit up by preparing them on the mat, and at first, they would sit up on that mat. Of course, once they got more curious, they would crawl and move off the mat.

Things to Watch

In addition to watching the surroundings of your baby as he learns to sit up, there are other areas in which parents might find themselves concerned. One concern in particular is that your baby does not seem interested in sitting up, or they are delayed in sitting up past the first seven months. For this, it is best to talk to your doctor. Many parents worry that their baby is not eating enough, not sleeping enough, not moving around enough; this is where a family doctor will be able to point you in the right direction for a specialist. I had a friend who had complications during birth, and as a result, even though her son was healthy, he had about a month delay on sitting up and standing, and several other milestones as well. He worked with a physical therapist for a while, and gradually it became much easier for him to move around. Today, he is just as fast and sharp as his peers.

Because sitting up is related to other milestones, and is often seen as a precursor to specific milestones such as crawling, standing, and walking, it is a good idea to make sure that you, as a parent, have a support system. Today, many people seem to know a lot of people, but it is hard to find people who you trust. Trusting people with your kids is especially challenging for many. To help this, once your baby begins to move and sit up, make sure you have someone who can help you with the day to day duties of running a household or can help you watch your child when you are tired. It is very, very taxing to be vigilant all the time, and as your baby begins to sit up and move around, it is good to establish trust so others can help relieve you when you need it. For me, I had some family members nearby who would come when they could, and I have a friend as my permanent babysitter who comes when I need help or I go to work. If you are not able to afford a sitter or daycare, try to find a friend who can swap off babysitting duties with you. I have a couple of friends who do that, and they all agree it is a good way for their kids to socialize while giving one mom a break.

Sitting up is a milestone many parents look for, especially as a precursor to walking. Signs for sitting up usually occur around three months, making the average amount of time it takes for babies to sit up around four months. Up to this point, babies are getting more exercise with tummy time, strengthening their core muscles and their necks and backs; these are the critical areas babies need to develop in order to sit up. While time and practice is the best method for getting your baby ready to sit up, there are some techniques and resources which can help facilitate this milestone development.

When Do Babies Sit Up? Complete Parent Guide.

Resources to Help

Sitting up can be one of the milestones that is taken for granted. After all, many babies seem to sit up on their own as they sit down in their high chairs, or they sit in their baby swings or baby seats. How hard could it be to go from that to sitting up on their own? Since it can be more complicated than meets the eyes, there are some products that can help.

Bumbo seats have mixed reviews among parents and professionals, but they are there to get your child into a safe position where his back is straight. The seat does not allow him to sit up unassisted, but if you are unable to sit with your child, this could be a good substitute to get him used to how it feels to sit up.

With the Bumbo seats, there are several variations of the product; some have trays, which make it easy to sit your baby down and allow him to eat sitting up. There are other seats, too, which will buckle your child in and allow them to sit up straight.

While it is not a physical resource, there are some exercises that you can go through with your child. These movements can help your baby go from lying on her back to sitting up all on her own with enough time, patience, and practice.

It is important to remember that sitting up is a common milestone for babies to achieve around four to seven months. However, many babies can take their time in achieving it, and there is little cause for concern if he or she does not want to pursue it as much as another baby might. New parents in particular seemed stressed if their child does not meet a milestone or even exceed it; parents with two or more kids are more relaxed and confident in situations like this.


Sitting up is a milestone many parents look for as a sign their baby is growing and healthy. While this is the case, it can take time for your child to decide he or she wants to pursue this milestone, and it may take time for your baby’s muscles to develop and strengthen. Many factors, such as genetics, health, and stimulation all play a critical role in this stage of baby development. Keeping this in mind, as you study your baby’s growth, you should be able to hold him to realistic and flexible expectations.

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When Do Babies Sleep Through The Night?

Did your baby sleep through the night?

When Do Babies Sleep Through the Night?

Babies Sleeping Through the Night: An Introductory Overview.

Babies do not typically come out of the womb and begin sleeping through the night right away, as much as her mother might want her to. A baby is born and instantly she needs to have her needs met. When the baby was still inside its mother, she was able to get fed constantly, and it was easy for her to have her other needs taken care of.

Once a baby is born, a baby still needs to be fed, changed, and have her tummy settled. This is a large part of the reason why it is so hard to get a baby to sleep through the night once she is born; all of these procedures and requirements have to be met in order for a baby to get a good night’s sleep.

When a baby is born, for the first several weeks, mothers can easily feel like zombies, as they are constantly getting up and trying to take care of not only their baby, but their house, and if they are able, themselves. Many times after the birth of my children, I heard the mantra, “You need to sleep when the baby is sleeping.”

But it can be surprising to new mothers just how hard it is to get a shower without feeling like you should be sleeping instead, and it is hard not to notice how dirty or disorganized the home looks once you have had a baby. On top of that, there are groceries to buy, laundry to fold, and bills to pay. Because there are a lot of things on the parents’ “To-do” list, new mothers and fathers can easily be overwhelmed by the first weeks of parenthood.

During this time, it is important to recognize that it will end, and that it is a good thing that it will, because it means your baby is growing. It is also good to keep that in mind because you want to be able to realize that your sacrifice of your sleep now will help your child do better and feel better. It can be hard, especially if the mother suffers from post-partum, to get to a point where it is easy to give grace to others. It is also good to keep a mental checklist of what you do and try to repeat it.

For example, many babies will feed before they go to sleep. Once the baby is asleep, if you do not feel like going to sleep, try to clean for ten minutes and then try lying down. I had a lot more success with my second child because I knew I would have trouble sleeping, and I was able to anticipate my moods better.

Cleaning is a way of physically demonstrating that you are able to do some good while also helping to keep your emotions under control. This is helpful, because if you do not get enough sleep, it will be harder to control yourself. Once the baby has been fed, and you’ve done some cleaning and most likely some laundry organization, you will be a little more relaxed enough to at least lie down, if not fall asleep.

Another good item to have on your checklist is the issue of diapers. When a baby is newly changed, they will have an easier time of sleeping. This is true of all children. If you have a clean diaper, you will sleep longer. I have done my share of midnight diaper changes, and it is always harder to put the baby back to sleep if I have changed her. I would envy my friends who were capable of changing a diaper without waking their child in the process.

Finally, checking your baby for her creature comforts can help. I had a winter baby and a summer baby, and to this day, I know which one needs a blanket and which one will kick all of the blankets off the bed if I dare to put on too many.

Temperature, sound systems, and even air purifiers have all been suggestions I have heard to use in order to help my children get to sleep at night. Some parents will use essential oils, rubbing little droplets into the sheets, in order to help keep their baby asleep. Others will make sure that their child is positioned in a particular way, or certain music is playing.

These are all great ideas which you can use as you need to. Babies can change, but many people have found success in using bedtime routines. Even later on in their lives, some kids will not go to bed unless it is completely silent; others will need everything from a blanket to water to music to the nightlight.

Making the Transition

As babies are growing, you can easily look for the opportunities to lengthen out their sleeping patterns as they grow. Many newborns will need feedings pretty regularly, every three to four hours, or with even less time in between. Once you see that you can go an extra fifteen, thirty, or even sixty minutes in between feedings, you can start to work in the different sleep patterns.

Transitioning slowly helps you as a parent as much as it can help the baby learn to sleep peacefully. Tending to their needs, and seeing to the conditions in which they need to fall asleep, really makes you learn more about your child’s temperament and personality. It also gives their mind and body time to adjust; while your baby is sleeping, plenty of things are still growing and going on inside of him.

Sometimes, with the transition, it is good to have a way prepared for your baby to self-soothe. This can include popular measures such as pacifiers to help get your baby to lull himself back to sleep in the even he is startled awake. My children used the pacifier, but many of my friends have had kids that never seemed to want to take them. Some parents have discouraged this, because some babies will use their fingers or other body parts in order to soothe themselves back to sleep.

By the time your baby is six months old, you will also see that his physical body has changed and developed, and more development is coming as he grows. It is around this time that many parents will see the eight-hour mark on sleeping through the night, as the brain is getting bigger and needs more time to recover from the events of the day. In later months, it will be easier for the babies to stay asleep as they grow and begin using more of their energy reserves for crawling, walking, and playing.

With multiple children, it can happen that the second or third child will mimic more of the patterns of the older children. My son and daughter are prime examples of this; my soon took eighteen months to fall asleep for the whole night, whereas my daughter was staying asleep for the whole night in six months.

When it comes to transitioning, you should keep in mind that there are days when you are allowed to backslide, and there are days where you have no progress. Many people think that routine and repetition will be positive, so recognizing that it is possible for this not to happen will help keep your expectations realistic and achievable.

Resources and Recommendations

When it comes to resources, your baby’s doctor can be a source of invaluable information. Your pediatrician, especially if you have known your baby’s doctor for a time, can really give you insight into your child’s health. One of the best things about my baby’s doctor was just that she had a lot of experience, too, so she was able to identify a lot of things before I even finished complaining about them.

For example, one of the things that she suggested when I was having trouble breastfeeding was to use the nipple shield, and she said I could use it for as long as I needed it, even though most doctors would not recommend using it past six months. Part of the reason she suggested this to me was actually because my babies had trouble sleeping, and most of it had to do with the fact that I wasn’t producing enough milk for them to feed. It is hard to get a baby to go to sleep when he is hungry.

Another common experience that I have had as a parent and as a friend of parents is the question of sleeping with a full tummy. I had a friend whose son had severe acid reflux; because of this, it was hard to send him to bed if he had just eaten, but at the same time, most babies will sleep right after they have been fed. Since she was unsure of what to do, she and her husband would take their baby out in the car for a ride.

The comfortable bumping would help with the baby’s reflux, and keeping him in an upright position in the car seat helped prevent him from waking up due to gas or reflux. She told me that because of that, she was eventually able to get her son to sleep, but he was over a year old before it happened. They didn’t think it was that big of a deal, but one they told their doctor, they were able to make better adjustments to their son’s routine.

Another friend had a baby that had allergy problems in the spring and fall, but she thought it was just a simple cold. She was able to talk to her doctor and decide on a treatment plan for her son.

If you are not sure of your child’s sleeping pattern, it is good to ask your doctor about it. Sometimes it seems like every little thing can ruin a baby’s slumber, so it can be very helpful to have questions prepared and ready to ask when you visit the doctor’s office.


After having children, sleeping through the night becomes one of the most ardent wishes. Many parents will see their newborns able to sleep in blocks of six to eight hours as early as three months, but more will likely see this later on. Some children do not fully sleep through the night until they are one year old.

Whatever the length of time, there are several techniques a parent can use in order to encourage them to go to sleep. Taking care of the baby basics—making sure the baby has been fed a good amount, making sure the baby is wearing a clean diaper, and making sure the baby is in a comfortable position as well as a safe setting—is a great way to start a bedtime routine.

In the event that you are unsure of the baby’s progress in this area, feel free to consult your doctor for insights into your baby’s health. Since every child is different, it can be hard to expect what will happen down to the smallest details. However, remember that it is part of the learning and growing phase, and while it can be unpleasant and arduous, it is rewarding and a special time for you as a parent.

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