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BabyPillars community baby sleep questions and answers

Baby sleeping

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BabyPillars Community – questions and answers

From the BabyPillars Community – what other parents are saying about their baby sleep problems and how they cope.

Megan .T. Question: Any tips on how to get a newborn to go to sleep at night?!

Silma .G. Asked: Has anyone tried the sleep drops for babies? Did they help at all? Nothing seems to settle him down and im burning out. Hubby gets frustrated with the crying all night.

Rachelle .G. Question: Opinions and thought on the "cry it out" method for babies?

Sara .G. Question: Day sleeps... What age did you go from two sleeps to one sleep? What time do you put them down and how long do they sleep for? DD is 13 months and is resisting her second sleep at daycare. She's been doing this for maybe a week. Before that she was fine. Is it time to change her sleep times? On a side note... She's almost walking, taking more steps each day. I wonder if this developmental milestone is impacting on her day sleeps and she'll come right once fully walking. Thanks ?

Ashley .N. Question: How did you survive the 4 month sleep regression? LO is 3 months old and is now waking up every 1-2 hours at night again. I want to bash my head into a wall- this is miserable!

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The 4 Pillars Of Falling Asleep Faster

Baby sleeping

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The 4 pillars of falling asleep faster and for better sleep

So what should you actually do to make your baby fall asleep faster?

If your baby sleeps with you in bed, or if your baby falls asleep on your hands or if your baby needs any “outside” help to fall asleep start with the first step.

The first pillar of falling asleep

In the first pillar after you have performed your own bedtime ritual, put a chair next to your child's bed and sit down. Massage your baby and touch him or her from time to time until they fall asleep. Make sure your baby falls asleep with your touch.

It is very important that the physical contact between you and your baby will be under your control and not under your baby control.

If your baby doesn’t fall asleep, cries, stand up etc., or if your constant contact does not help, lift him/her up, calm them on your hands and return them immediately to their bed when they calm down.

The second pillar of falling asleep

In the second pillar you should help your baby fall asleep without any physical contact. Sit beside your baby without touching. If he or she cries and needs you, calm them down first in bed and if it doesn’t work, then on your hands.

When you see that they are calm and close to sleeping remove your hand.

The third pillar of falling asleep

In the third pillar sit on a chair farther away from your baby but within sight, they should see you there when they are lifting their head. Of course here too, if your baby begins to cry approach, calm them down, lay them back in bed and sit down in the chair again.

The fourth pillar of falling asleep

In the fourth pillar you say "good night", give your baby a kiss and leave the room. If your baby cries, it is necessary to return, calm him down, lay him back down to bed and leave the room.

If your baby wakes up at the middle of the night, do the same actions depending on the pillar you are in.

These are the five steps and the four pillars that I personally use and thousands of families use for quitter sleep and get up full of energy and happiness in the morning and my family sleeps all night and create opportunities to enjoy moments of peace and quiet.

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The 5 Steps For A Better Quitter Night Sleep

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The 5 Steps For A Better And Quitter Night Sleep

The first step - Create permanent anchors

Each one of us was born and raised in a particular environment, where there was a certain order.

We knew there was breakfast, lunch, dinner, when to play and when to go to sleep. Our parents dictated our daily routine and built a certain routine for us.

Years passed, we grew up and matured, the world changed and together with it our day to day life and our routine. Each one from this stage dictates to what and when he does things. Now we let ourselves go to bed late and whenever we feel tired, get up when we need or not at all, eat whenever we feel like, and yet, our lack of routines are still routines.

But now we are parents, some of us build special routines for our newborn baby but some of us a lot of us go with the "routine" we have already set when there wasn’t a little bundle of joy in our home. Here is the problem! This routine doesn’t work for our baby and soon we will need to change it - To his/her routine.

How to organize a regular schedule for your baby?

Try to organize the day so that it has fixed anchors at regular times. For example: meals, playing times, going out for errands or just walking around the neighbourhood, all these “tasks” should be fixed and on regular times throughout the day.

The daily routine and road signs will give your baby a sense of security and will make it easier for him/her to follow the course of the day and help organize his/her day without they will even notice.

Important!!!
It is very important that during the day your baby sleeps in his/her bed so that they will learn that there is one fixed place and bed which they sleep in and have all the proper conditions for it.

The second step – The Sleeping Ceremony

The sleeping ceremony is of great importance, and it is designed to help your baby get a clear separation between day time and night time. We aim to lower our hectic life before going to bed and preparing our baby for a quality and pleasant sleep.

It is important that the order of things in the ceremony will be consistent and more or less at the same sequence and time. It is important to emphasize that the ceremony must repeat itself every day, and exactly the same.

During the sleeping ceremony you can put some calm music in the background, you can leave the light on, and it is important that the sleeping ceremony will have content and meaning. You can read a bedtime story, massage your baby for a few seconds, say good night to every large toy in the room etc.

Then when your done turn off the light or the music and put your baby down to sleep.

The third step - Identify signs of fatigue

It is very important to recognize the signs of your baby fatigue and respond to them from the moment you recognize them and no longer than 30 minutes.


Common signs are of fatigue are:

  1. Your baby rubbing their eyes
  2. Scratching their ear or head
  3. yawning
  4. Another sign that you can recognize if your baby is tired is his hyperactivity. Here I remember the myth most of us heard from our surroundings that you need to wait until he or she gets tired and then they will sleep for a whole night or at least A few good hours. When I tried to do this, the dream of a good night sleep just smashed into my face.

When you know that your baby is long overdue and past his/her sleeping hour and he or she does not look tired at all, this is a red light you should notice.

His body is over-tired and excreted adrenaline which causes your baby to enter the hyperactivity state and in such a situation it is very difficult to soothe and lay them down to sleep. And even when you've succeeded in putting them down, chances are they'll wake up at night and not once but multiple times. So, avoid getting into over-fatigue and always remember that early response will ease your child's process of falling asleep and will benefit his/her sleep quality.

The fourth step – Day and night sleep cycles

One thing that changed my understanding of my baby sleeping patterns was understanding what sleeping cycles are. A baby's sleep cycle takes about an hour and is divided into two parts.

In the first part your baby sees a dream, so you can see that when he moves a lot during sleep, blinking (REM) and it almost looks like he doesn’t sleep at all.

In the second part of the sleep cycle, your baby enters his/her deep sleep phase, where you will see and feel regular breathing, relaxed body and see that your baby sleeps just "like a baby". After an hour or so, the sleep cycle is renewed and again your baby enters the dream phase.

Day Sleeping
Sleeping during and the amount of sleep is heavily depending on your baby age. See table above. If your baby is sleeping an entire sleep cycle, that is, an hour and more, then he or she decides to wakes up, there is no reason to bring him back to sleep, the physical system is refreshes and this is the time he or she can get up and continue the day.

During the noon sleep time your baby should not sleep more than 3 hours in total, otherwise it may turn into almost “night sleep” and it can and would change the routine and night time sleep

Your baby should sleep no less than 55 minutes (preferably an hour) at noon, otherwise, it is likely that your baby will arrive at the sleeping ceremony overly tired grumpy and the night sleep will be effected.

Night Sleeping
Even during the night, the sleep cycle is the same sleep cycle, the only thing that should change is our attitude and the way we approach our baby.

When your baby wakes up in the middle of the night, your goal is to get him/her back to sleep. When your baby wakes up, it is important not to start playing with him or her and to not incorporate any other factors that will distract your baby from sleeping, otherwise he or she simply would not want to go back to sleep.

The fifth step - Good Morning – It’s a new day

So as not to cause confusion in your baby when the night ends and a new day begins, here, too, it is important to do a short sleep ceremony. You can open the blinds, say good morning to the toys in the room, change the PJ’s etc.

And always - start the day with a smile. It is very important that it morning and a new day has begun - Your baby should understand that too. Enter the room with a smile (even if you did not sleep at all that night), hug him or her say good Morning it’s a new and exciting day ahead.

But if you know that it is not yet time to start the day, then return your baby to sleep until morning.

It is important that you as the parent be decisive, very clear and confident in yourself and in your parenting. This is how your baby will learn he has someone he can trust and trust is related to every area of his or her life, not only to sleep, otherwise he or she will simply not understand what you will want from them at the next night.

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Baby Sleep Chart, How Long Should A Baby Really Sleep

Baby sleeping

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By BabyPillars

Baby Sleep chart – How long should a baby really sleep, throughout the day and night

First – the guidelines. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine in 2016 established new guidelines for the amount of sleep a baby and/or a child 0-5 year olds should sleep each day.

Please keep in mind that these numbers are a sense of the “norm” but what really is “normal” in baby sleep? and are all babies sleep the same? These numbers are gust suggestions and should be handle as such.

  • Infants 4–12 months: 12–16 hours total in 24 hours
  • Children 1–2 years: 11–14 hours total in 24 hours
  • Children 3–5 years: 10–13 hours total in 24 hours

What are the Sleep needs of a newborn?

Your baby sleep varies and changed depending on their age. While newborns babies sleep the majority of time, their sleep is in very short segments. As your baby grows, the total amount of sleep hours gradually decreases by age, but on the other hand the length of night sleep increases more and more each year.

In general, and not for every mom, newborns daytime sleep is between 8 to 9 hours. Nighttime sleep is about 8 hours, but unfortunately newborns may not sleep more than an hour to two hours at a stretch. So when does a baby sleep through the night? 

Here is the answer: Some babies will sleep through the night (6 to 8 hours stretch) without waking starting at around 3 months of age. About 60% of babies are able to sleep through the night on a regular basis by the age of 6 to 8 months.

The following are the usual nighttime and daytime sleep needs for newborns through age 2 years old:

Age

Total sleep hours

Total hours of nighttime sleep

Total hours of daytime sleep

Newborn

16 hours

8-9 hours

8 hours

1 month

15.5 hours

8-9 hours

7 hours

3 months

15 hours

9-10 hours

4-5 hours

6 months

14 hours

10 hours

4 hours

9 months

14 hours

11 hours

3 hours

1 Year

14 hours

11 hours

3 hours

1.5 Years

13.5 hours

11 hours

2.5 hours

2 Years

13 hours

11 hours

2 hours

Sleep Schedule

Here are the most common sleep schedules you can give your baby by his/her age, but please take in consideration your baby’s individual needs, and want's this is not for all babies out there.

Day Baby Sleep Schedule

Age

No. of Naps

Nap Spacing

Day Sleep Notes

Approx Total Day Sleep

0 - 4 Months

On Demand
(usually 4-5)

45-120 mins awake time between naps. Nap irregularity in frequency and duration is common.

No schedule yet, keep baby rested. Avoid over tiredness and long stretches of wakefulness. Don’t be afraid to soothe your baby – s/he needs sleep! Single sleep cycle naps (3045 mins) are common in the second half of this phase.

Many babies will sleep 15-16 hours in 24 hours during first 2-3 months, then decreases to more like 14-15 hours +/- by 3-4 months.

4 - 6 Months

4 down to 3

4 months – single sleep cycle (30-45 mins naps) are still normal. By 5-6 months, babies are capable of lengthening naps. 2-2 ½ hours awake time between naps. On 3 nap pattern, third nap is shortest (30-45 mins).

Schedule is emerging. Prioritise your baby’s naps, paying attention to sleep location and environment now. Start your day at a regular time (30 min window), work towards three nap a day pattern with longer wake times between the naps by 6 months.

3 - 4.5 hours

6 - 9 Months

3 down to 2

3 nap schedule: 2-2 ½ hours between naps 2 nap pattern: Ladder schedule. Approx. 2-3-4 hours between each sleep session starting with morning wake.

Schedule is solidifying, keep bed/wake times regular. With three good naps, night sleep may condense (night shortens, typically later bedtime). When naps transition from 3 to 2, night sleep increases (earlier bedtime) and ladder style schedule of increasing stretches of wakefulness after each nap.

3 - 4 hours

9 - 18 Months

2 naps until approx.
12-18 months, then 1 to 2 naps

2 naps: typical schedule: Wake up – approx. 2.5 hours awake – nap – 3+ hours awake – nap – approx 4+ hours awake– bed.

1 nap: typical schedule: Wake up – 4-6 hours awake – nap – 4-5 hours awake – bed. May have catnaps before or after main nap during transition.

Night shortens again (later bedtimes) before the 2-1 nap transition. Night lengthens (earlier bedtime) after the 2-1 nap transition. Keep bed/wake times regular, but compensate with earlier bedtimes when needed for overtiredness.

3 + hours up to 12 months, then down to 2 -2.5 +/- hours with nap transition.

1.5 - 3 Years

1 nap

Wake up – 4-6 hours awake– nap – 5+ hours awake – bed

After transition, which may take several weeks, long period of regularity. Be careful of catnaps. Be careful of late naps plus early bedtimes which can lead to early am wake ups. A napping 3 year old will have a shorten night than a napping 18 month old.

2 + hours

3+ Years

1-no nap

Wake up – 6+ hours awake – nap – 5-6 hours awake – bed

Naps are very beneficial at this age, even though nights will shorten quite a bit with a napping preschooler. Allow enough wake time in afternoon/evening to rebuild sleep pressure for a smoother bedtime.

1 -2 hours

Night Time Baby Sleep Schedule

Age

No. of Feedings/Wakings

Night Sleep Notes

Total Night Sleep

0 - 4 Months

On demand under three months. After three months 2-3 feedings after first 4-5 hour stretch

months. After three months 2-3 feedings after first 4-5 hour stretch
Bedtimes are late and erratic in the first 2-3 months, but drift earlier and regulate around the third month. First third of the night consolidates around 3 months. Last third remains erratic. Some babies will sleep long 7-9 hour stretches in the first 3 months, which often changes suddenly around 4 months (4-month regression). Swaddling essential unless rolling. Start good sleep hygiene (dark, cool, quiet rooms) around 7-10 weeks.

9-11 hours Approx total sleep in 24 hours: 15 – 16

4 - 6 Months

2-1 feedings after first 5-8 hour stretch

Regular bed and wake times, with well consolidated sleep before first and second feedings. feedings. Great sleep environments. Stop swaddle with rolling. Avoid dream feedings. Last third of the night remains erratic. Four (or 5, or 6) month regression is common)Sleep Training may begin if desired.

10 – 12 hours Approx total sleep in 24 hours: 13.5 – 15 (if your baby is sleeping 4 hours during the day, it is unlikely s/he will do a 12 hour night)

6 - 9 Months

7-9 hours without feeding, then 0-1 feedings

Older babies who are still taking three average length naps will almost certainly not do 12 hours. Night lengthens (bedtime earlier) when third nap drops awake. Full night consistency is developing through the last third of the night. Babies are old enough to find pacifier around 7-8 months old.

10.5 – 12 hours Approx total sleep in 24 hours: 13.5 – 15

9 - 18 Months

Parents’ choice. May be helpful to have one feeding in last third of the night for extended breastfeeding.

Separation anxiety and developmental milestones may cause new regressions.

10.5 – 12 hours Approx total sleep in 24 hours: 13 – 14

1.5 - 3 Years

Parents’ choice. Early morning feeding may help with extended breastfeeding.

Long period of regularity. Fears and bedtime battles at bedtime may appear.

10-12 hours Approx total sleep in 24 hours: 12 – 14

3+ Years

Parents’ choice

Non napping preschoolers need at least 11 hours of night sleep. Napping preschoolers may only do 11-12 hours total in 24 hours.

9-11+ hours Approx total sleep in 24 hours 11 +/-

Sleep Schedule Important!!

Not all babies are the same and it is important to remember that the tables above are according to the average number of hours of sleep and that it varies from baby to baby according to their needs, it is very important to see how your baby functions while he or she are awake.

Now, after you understood the importance of sleep, the challenges when and how much your baby should sleep here are 5 steps you can start today for a quite night and a healthier night sleep. These 5 steps will help you and your baby achieve a better night sleep and get up refreshed in the morning.

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Baby Sleep Training And Baby Sleep Schedule

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Baby Sleep Training and baby sleep schedule – all the does and don’ts you need to know from now

A guide for healthy sleeping habits, training and schedule for babies and toddlers.

This guide will help imparting quality sleep in your baby, independence and security for you parents.

Thanks to parent’s awareness regarding sleeping habits and schedule, every parent can enjoy from now on a quiet night and continuous sleep for himself and his children.

WARNING: This guide can change parents' life and make them sleep all night long.

Many parents asked us questions like:

  • I do everything, but my baby does not sleep, why?
  • My child wakes up 3 times a night and I cannot seem to get him back to sleep, what to do?
  • Our baby is not willing to sleep in his bed, he constantly asks us to be swaddle and we are forced to put him to sleep with us, how can we change that?
  • How much sleep does my baby needs?
  • When does my child sleep a continuous night without waking up?
  • We are really lost and desperate ... The boy is crying all the time, what are we doing wrong?
  • My child is too hyperactive, he just does not get tired and it is hard tout him to sleep, how do we deal with him?


There are many more questions that parents ask and all have one common denominator - What should be done in order for a baby to sleep a continuous night sleep without waking up in the middle?

In our experience, one of the most important elements in educating children is to instill healthy and correct sleeping habits. With proper sleeping habits it is possible to overcome many obstacles, to develop independence in your baby and of course security for you the parents.

You have finished with your family bedtime ritual – bath then a massage, pyjamas, a short story and your little one is already yawning and rubbing their eyes, but you see that they are not ready to go to sleep. They want to play again, or maybe they are afraid to stay alone or prefer to fall asleep only on your arms. Why is it so hard for them to fall asleep?

When I'm asked what is the most lovely moment on my agenda with the children, I always get confused. Sometimes it seems to me that the most charming moment is when they open their eyes in the morning, warm and juicy like a fresh bun, and at other moments I think it is when they enter kindergarten and school and let me go for a few hours or the pleasure of taking them back to my lap in the afternoon. But, honestly, the moment they are the sweetest, and

I hope you will not say a bad word about my motherhood, is when they fall asleep at night. How relaxing. How idyllic. And in order to reach the desired moment, in which they are covered in their beds and immersed in a sweet dream, I am willing to do everything.

JUST GO TO SLEEP… Please.

Why is it really hard for babies and children to fall asleep? Michel Dowson, a clinical and medical psychologist and chief psychologist at the ST Children's Development Center, has three main reasons: The biological cause – When a baby is born he/she still does not distinguish between day and night and we as parents need to help them acquire regular sleeping habits; The emotional reason - children suffer from fear and anxiety and therefore have trouble falling asleep and reject sleep as much as possible, and the developmental reason that characterises some of the older children, for whom sleep is an expression of power struggles with parents.

So how do you overcome the difficulties of falling asleep? Dowson explains that most babies feel the atmosphere at home and get used to it. In the same way, the baby feels that the whole family is preparing for sleep, that the night is coming down and that it is time to sleep. By the end of their first year of life, most babies acquire the biological tendency and understand sleep time. Of course there are babies who need more time to understand the differences between day and night, so we do not expect the same behaviour from all.

"The sleep cycle is indeed a biological thing," says Dowson, "but it was also acquired and studied. It is very important to help the baby adjust to family sleeping habits and, more importantly, to let him learn to fall asleep alone with as little intervention as possible by parents. We do it naturally; in the day we act with the baby alertly - provoking him with games, talking loudly, arousing his attention, and conversely in the evening we lower our voices, speak calmly and darken the room. The baby, on the other hand, picks up these messages, thus acquiring the distinction between day and night.

"In time, the baby should be accustomed to regular sleeping rituals that bring him even more into the atmosphere of sleep and to absorb the message - go to bed," notes Dowson. The "ritual" accepted by most families is: eating because it is known that those who are full sleep better, bathing - no matter whether it is a bath or a partial wash of the face and hands only and brushing teeth - a sleeping environment such as turning off lights, lowering sound (in speech and on television) Which helps to make the difference between day and night. For toddlers and children, reading a story will also be appropriate for this stage.

The sleep ceremony varies from family to family, but its components are more or less common to all families with children of different ages. But what about bedtime? It is changing from child to child and from parent to parent. There are parents that are very strict with evening hours and they are very important to them and they want more free, quite time for themselves, while there are others who needs more time with their babies at night.

"It's important to be realistic," stresses Dowson. "If a year ago your seven-year-old son fell asleep at 8 PM and today he cannot fall asleep before nine - consider that. The younger siblings should also realise that the older one needs less sleep. In addition, if the child sleeps an afternoon and at night is having trouble sleeping, you may want to consider giving up the afternoon nap. In any case, it is important to remember that there are no clear rules on this issue, and that the hours vary between families and children."

How do you help your baby fall asleep on his own?

Dowson: "First of all, you identify your baby's first signs of fatigue and put them in their bed. Maybe it will just work sometimes. If a baby or toddler is having a hard time falling asleep on his own, the problem may be the parent's desires – they enjoy singing, swaddling, falling asleep with their baby, and thinking that it is easier for their baby to fall asleep.

"Some parents have gotten used to putting the children to sleep while driving around the block or in the hustle of the living room when the television is on, and some parents go too far and operate a vacuum cleaner or a hair dryer to create monotonous mechanical noise that will help their babies fall asleep. When the difficulty of falling asleep is great, it is impossible to rule out the different ways in which the parents think they can help their babies, but it is clear that they should be avoided and that the baby (and later the child) should learn to fall asleep without any help and on their own."

There are a few methods to improve your baby ability to fall asleep and sleep through movement. Most babies find it difficult to fall asleep because they do not get the right conditions for sleep. Conditions include physical ease, security, movement, closeness to parents, some of the basic conditions known to parents. Also, some babies have different problems that affect sleep: breathing problems, high muscle tone, torticollis, cervical and so on.

When you try to put your baby to sleep, take several steps:

Movement – try moving your baby monotonous rhythms and gradually reduce the rate of movement to total relaxation. Your baby needs a movement to which he has become accustomed in the womb.

Voice - parallel to movement, we use voice. We start out louder when the child is not relaxed, and then we tone down. Many parents fear that their child will become accustomed to falling asleep on their hands and thus they will have to calm him regularly, this claim is not correct when the above conditions are met, and after falling asleep you should place your baby immediately in his/her bed."

In the first three months of your baby's life, your baby must be swaddle, because it is the safest condition.

After the age of three or four months, and after your baby has received his/her first dose of safety, start offering your baby the ability to sleep separately. This process is not simple and must be done gradually, not to forget that this is a learning process of adapting to a new life.

What to do when independent sleeping fails and it is accompanied by weeping and crying?

First, crying does not have to be an alarm clock for parents and you should not be alarmed by any whimpering. It is very important to acknowledge your baby when he or she cries, but do not jump up and make him/her stop crying immediately. A parent should also know how to contain a baby’s crying. This is part of parenting.

In that case, you can come to the room and calm your baby down. This means literally or actually your presence, 'It's okay, we're here,' 'You're going to sleep and we're here for you.' It is important to make this mission without noise and mess but quietly and in as short a time as possible. They do not turn on light and are not tempted to take it out of bed and wake it up again."

Even if you have not given your baby independent sleep habits from infancy, it's never too late. The larger the task, the harder and more complex the task, but the key to success is consistency and persistence.

So how do you get your baby to fall asleep on their own?

We all know that the ideal situation is independent sleep habits of the baby. It's easy to say, difficult to perform, but there are those who will say that with a little knowledge this is definitely possible. Here are some known methods:

The five-minute method - according to the method, which is appropriate from the first few months of your baby's life, you should allow your baby to fall asleep on their own. Leave the room, quietly swallow the crying and the supplications, and return three to five minutes later to show your baby that you are there for them. After several cycles of exit and entering the room pass your baby picks up the principle and then falls asleep on their own.

The pros of the five-minute method: you can find many parents in around the world who will say that it worked for them and for their baby.

The cons of the five-minute method: many psychologists and parents can be found to say that this is abuse for its own sake, and that a baby needs a lot of warmth and closeness, especially in the first months of his/her life.

The whispering method for infants - the principle is this: trying to put the baby in his bed so that he falls asleep on his own. When he does not show enthusiasm, what usually happens, and lack of enthusiasm leads to crying, holding him on your hands and swaddling until he calms down and then lay him back down again in bed. The baby cries again? Do not give up, lift him back up and swaddle, hold him until he comes down and leave. It can repeat itself many times in the first night and in the following nights, but according to the Methodist Tracy Hogg, parents should see results even as early as the second night.

The pros of the whispering method for infants: because if it works it's great, for us we are covered: we calmed, held, did not abandon, so that when the baby did relax and fell asleep, we had a good outcome.

The cons of the whispering method for infants: Because you can quickly get to a frustrating and discouraging situation and not really enjoy the screams rising in the air. The method mainly engages the mother to start breastfeeding. According to the principles of the method, when the mother is breastfeeding, the father should take control of the process in this method, because it may make it easier for all the parties. If so, then maybe dear mother, tell your husband only the "pros" ...

The sleeping like a baby method – A method from a doctor who deals with sleeping disorders in infants and children, and the author of "Sleeping Like a Baby" book, parents should create regular rituals and patterns to help their baby acquire good sleeping habits. The important principle is to create clear boundaries between the atmosphere of the day and the atmosphere of the night at home.

The pros of the sleeping like a baby method: Because it makes sense, human and even achievable.

The cons of the sleeping like a baby method: Because not all of us are built for this ritualism that somewhere stops the entire order of the house – make everything dark, quiet, change your patterns and behaviour ... But maybe there is simply no choice.

The stay with your baby method - Staying with the baby is the soft version of the five-minute method. We do not touch, we do not talk, we do not interfere, but we are there, we stay in our baby’s room until he/she falls asleep.

The pros of the stay with your baby method: Because there is no abandonment of the baby who signals that he needs us.

The cons of the stay with your baby method: You can break down quickly when you see your baby crying, or your toddler reaching for a hug.

Using a transitional object – your baby gets used to a doll, an old teddy bear, or a ragged, torn diaper, and falls asleep with it until dawn.

The pros of using a transitional object: Because it is a great solution, effective, does not require a lot of energy and creates an atmosphere of relaxation at home. Today, psychologists find many benefits in the transitional objects.

The cons of the using a transitional object: because after you have solved the problem of sleep you will have to give your child a long and exhausting rehabilitation program. it's worth?


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Your Personal Baby Sleep Guide – The ultimate Parenting Guide to Your Baby Sleep

Baby sleeping

Nearly everything you need to know

By BabyPillars

The basic guide to baby sleep every parent should start with.

Hush baby hush … At nighttime we sleep: the basic sleeping guide for parents and babies.

Your baby's sleeping habits depend first on you the parent. What is important to know and do at any age, and no less important - what not to do. Welcome to the family guide for your infant sleep.

In short:

  1. When you see signs of fatigue appear, signs like: rubbing eyes, pulling ears, crying etc. this is the time to lay your baby to sleep. A baby should sleep on a hard mattress - lying on his back.
  2. From the early age of 6 months, you should avoid "helping" your baby fall asleep: do not swing or hold them on your hands, and don’t stay long in their room so that they will learn to fall asleep on their own.
  3. From the age of one to three years, your baby should already know how to fall asleep on their own and sleep most of the night. It is also a great age to start and set clear boundaries with sleep and in general.

Your baby had you up all night? The same old tired you at work feeling like a zombie with red eyes? Keep in mind that you determine your baby's sleeping habits, and you can also change them.

Every baby has his/her own patterns of sleep and wakefulness that are naturally divided throughout the day. Every baby has short periods of waking during the night (yes every baby). Each baby is different from the other, and your child's sleeping habits may be different from your friends' baby sleeping habits or different from your adult children's sleeping habits when they were the same age.

Once you have identified your baby's day by day sleeping pattern, you can plan your day routine to help your baby (and the rest of the family) sleep better and sleep well. These sleeping patterns affects your infant behaviour throughout the day, his/her development, health and his/her overall state of life.

From birth until two months

In the first few weeks after birth, your baby's sleep may be fragmented during the day it’s OK and very normal. Each sleep chapter can take between half an hour and three hours, and the night's sleep cycle may be interrupted by periods of waking. Around the age of six weeks, your baby sleeping pattern should begin to organise in a more orderly fashion. During sleep you may see your baby active: sucking, making jerky movements in his/her hands, smiling, making movements with his/her mouth. All of these reflect normal sleep for this age.

Two months to a year

During this stage of your baby life your baby should gradually acquires regular and predictable sleep habits. Between 2 months and 4 months you will notice a fairly constant rhythm of sleep and wakefulness during the day. From the age of three months to six months, most babies begin to sleep most of the night. At the age of twelve months’ infants need less sleep during daytime and the amount of daytime sleeps are reduced from three or four times a day to only once or twice a day.

One to three years

Toddlers will usually give up the morning nap from the age of 18 months or so. The need for an afternoon will usually disappear between the ages of three and five years. At this point, most infants will sleep a continuous night, but different events (such as illness, walking, or moving) may temporarily interfere with their normal sleep patterns.

From a cot to a bed - The transition to a single bed or a child bed may be characterised by some adjustments and difficulties, especially if it is too early in your child’s life. Most toddlers move from a cot to a bed between the ages of two and four.
If you find it difficult to wake up your child in the morning, he or she may not sleep as well as you think at night. The length of sleep varies from child to child, but in most cases, the hours needed for a child are quite regular.

How long should the child sleep?

From birth to about 2 months’ sleep is irregular (sorry mammy), but overall the expected sleep duration for a baby for a day ranges from 10 to 18 hours and on average: 14 hours and a half.

Between the ages of 2 months and 2 years’ your baby day sleep schedule is more continuous and includes fewer sleep periods a day and longer hours through the night. The average duration of sleep in a day is 14 hours and a half: 11-10 hours at night and 3-5 hours throughout the day.

Between one and three years of age, your cute toddler becomes much more active during the day and should sleep continuously at night. The expected length of sleep is 13-14 hours on average: about 11 hours and a half at night and another two hours throughout the day.

How to help a baby sleep better?

Put your baby to sleep immediately when you notice the signs of fatigue: rubbing his/her eyes, pulling ears, crying etc. In the first two months you can help your baby fall asleep by swinging the crib or feeding until they and you fall asleep, but from the age of three months on, you should gradually avoid doing so and give your baby regular sleep habits. A baby has to sleep on a hard mattress and when he/she lies on their back.

After about two months’ start focusing on regular sleep habits like: darken the room at night and throughout the day while going to sleep, reduce your baby’s social activity at night and before bedtime etc. If you are tired, ask your partner or a family member to allow you a recharge and look after your baby, make sure you sleep and fill in the missing hours of sleep you as the parent so desperately need. Tired and nervous parents do not do their job properly. When you wake up, continue to take care of the baby, much more relaxed and re energised.

When your baby is two to three-month-old you should start building normal and regular sleeping habits. Consider things that both you and your baby will enjoy: bath time, baby massage, changing your clothes into sleepwear (PJs), hugging and kissing gently, a quiet and pleasant song or anything that pleases you and your baby. It is advisable to repeat these sleeping activities and habits you chose every evening, even when someone else puts your baby down to sleep.

Starting from the age of six months, you should avoid "helping" your baby fall asleep: do not swing or hold on your hands, and do not stay for a long time in his/her room so that he or she learns to fall asleep on their own. Babies tend to wake up every hour and a half, and if you get them back to sleep with help, they will need this help also at night when they wake up. It is important to start this process around the age of six months.

Bedtime Routine

The bedtime routine should not be long, and the last stage of the routine should be in your baby's room. A pleasant and relaxing environment for sleeping is a darken room which is ventilated and quiet. The degree of lighting during bedtime should be similar to the degree of lighting during sleep time (and without TV flickers or mobile device). Lay your baby down when he/she is tired but still awake. Thus your baby will get used to falling asleep on his/her own even when he/she wakes up at night.

Between the ages of one to three years, your child should already know how to fall asleep on his/her own and sleep most of the night. It is important to continue to maintain your regular sleeping habits and routine and the hours of sleep and awakening should be fixed both at day time and at night. It is also the age to start and set clear sleep boundaries. For example, read your baby a story before bedtime, you will notice that your baby will ask again and again to read to him/her one more time or to have a drink of water or give a kiss to Dad, they just want to postpone bed time as much as they can.


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