5 Powerful Sentences Every Child Should Hear from His Parents Every Day!

Sometimes it's very easy for us to tell our kids what not to do, what not to say. It is easy to just say "Stop", "Enough already", "Do not do it", or "Why did you do exactly what I told you not to do?". It's one thing to stop trying to "fix" everything, but it is quite another thing to understand what to do instead.

Here are five sentences that every child should hear from their parent on a daily basis — meaning: every day!

Sounds the most obvious, right? Obviously you love your child, and every child should hear these three words every day. But they should not only hear it — they should see and experience it. It is what allows them to feel protected, safe, and of course happy. Embrace your child, admire them, tell them you love them. Every day, in words and especially in actions.

When you invite your child to think about a challenge, difficulty, or a problem they are having, you allow your child to solve the problem for themselves. We usually do not allow our children to think for themselves about solutions or share with us what they think.

Instead of telling them what to do, stop for a moment and ask: "Hmmm, I wonder what you think can be done?" You will get solutions you never dreamed of. If you want to raise responsible children, they need to be given responsibility. The best way is to significantly reduce telling them what to do and instead ask, "What do you think we should do now?" We can guide and direct them toward answers, but first ask their opinion. This might be the only way your child will develop confidence in their own opinions.

Often we want our kids to succeed and thrive, so we ask for more and more. Studies have shown that encouraging reward-related effort actually reduces your child's effort and performance. Strive instead to show your child that you are happy with them regardless of success.

He will be much more open and confident to try again, to strive again, even if he did not succeed at first. Ensuring only success will block your child from trying new things. "You worked really hard, wow — you set the whole table all alone!" Show your child that you see their effort, investment, and hard work.

Because let's face it, in reality we make mistakes as parents too, and it does not matter what kind of parent you are. If we treat our parenting as a "finished product" it may make our children feel judged. We make mistakes every day in front of our children!

When you say "I'm sorry", you show your child in your behavior that you too learn from the mistakes you make, and they learn that it's really okay to admit mistakes, apologize, and take responsibility for correcting it. Our children deserve an apology, just as we would expect a loved one to behave. They are human beings and we should treat them the way we expect the world to treat them.

Saying thank you gives our child a boost to do more of the good things we were able to see. It is a much more effective word than telling your child that they are a champion or amazing. "Thanks, I really appreciate what you did." Then your child feels appreciated immediately. Saying thank you to your child is also a way to teach them to be polite. Saying thank you and adding what you are thankful about affects the entire relationship with your child. Saying thank you is an important building block in your relationship with your child, every day!

I hope you enjoyed this article and it gave you some parental value. What do you think is important that every child hears every single day?