Why do toddler constantly whining? Crying and whining is communication – do you understand your baby?

There are different types of tears and different chemical compounds in tears. There are tears created to remove a foreign body from the eye, tears created by cutting an onion, and then there are tears whose function is to reduce tension, remove toxins from the body, and help us calm down. These are the crying tears of toddlers.

Evolutionists argue, and it sounds very logical, that children's crying is their first form of communication — especially communication for survival. Imagine a hungry baby, a cold baby, or a child who sees a snake. If they don't cry, no adult will come to save them. Crying is the quickest way to attract the attention of others and enlist their help.

When it is possible to examine the substances secreted in tears — specifically the high levels of the stress hormone — we can understand that crying is a necessary and efficient physiological process. It allows humans, especially the youngest ones, to cope with emotional distress by removing these chemicals from the body. Right after a good cry, do you feel better? This is because the tears have removed the chemical substances created by pressure, pain, and grief.

In my opinion, babies and toddlers should be allowed to cry and whine. Let them be free, let the stress hormone get out of their bodies. As long as the toddler does not hurt someone — let them express their feelings in tears and make it easier for their physical systems to rebalance.

The problem, in my opinion, is us: the crying of toddlers makes us feel all kinds of things. First, it calls us to be helpful. This is probably the primordial and primary role of weeping — to make us reach out, respond, help, comfort, and heal.

There are parents who completely fall apart when their child cries, as if it is the end of the world and they have to help right now, this second. Such a parent will envelop the child with such anxiety that the child will understand that something terrible is happening to them. The child may also realize that crying makes the parents respond so quickly and powerfully that they adopt crying as a tactic.

Some parents think that crying is a sign of weakness — as if weeping symbolizes an inability to function or cope with an uncomfortable situation. And some parents simply don't get excited. They leave their child alone in the battle, suffering without comfort.

Parents, when your toddler is crying, go to your toddler. Embrace your child. Do not tell them "it's not so bad" or "it will pass" — because to the toddler, it is so terrible, they do not believe it will ever pass and they are already crying.

It is clear that from time to time an educational element must also be inserted, depending on what the crying is coming from. But the educational element — what I call "the lesson of learning the lessons" — can take place two or three hours later.

When your child cries, do not choke their crying. Give them legitimacy for their feelings — insulted, angry, hurt, and sad — and allow them, by crying, to restore balance to their body and reach a state where they will feel better through true, uninterrupted crying.